Smacking you around while insisting you’re the one hurting them

I was recently reading on a web article about the current good/bad state of mental health in America, and one man said something that stuck out to me:

… People with mental illnesses are often in denial that they are ill, or they may feel unworthy of help or convinced that they can’t get better, so they don’t even try. Many family members, too, turn a blind eye to signs of an illness that scares and embarrasses them.

It’s not surprising, then, that less than one in five people who need effective mental health care in this country receive it.

This is the biggest roadblock today to a lot of things, in my opinion. Continue reading

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Maturation of Human Culture… or lack thereof.

Recently a friend of mine changed her Facebook relationship status from ‘in a relationship’ to ‘single’. Now, normally, this would be nothing big worth writing a whole rant blog about, and this in and of itself is not what I’m ranting on today. What I AM ranting on was one of the replies. One of her friends replied with:

good!! You’re young and you need to have fun without worrying about anyone else. These are the party years – enjoy 😉

Ok, since when did University become “the party years”? Continue reading

Grumpy day thoughts

This is just a collection of thoughts I posted to FB the other day when I was feeling depressed & grumpy. I felt it would be worthwhile to re-post them here.

I’m grumpy & depressed, been grumpy & depressed for months, & I’m tired of being grumpy & depressed. I need something to break out of this but I’m low on ideas. “Thinking positive” only goes so far.

It’s cute how people in general have kept offering me suggestions as if I haven’t already thought of, considered and tried them, then get mad at me for “shooting down” their one or two ideas as if I’m attacking them. Sorry I can’t lie about having already tried your idea & make you feel special or like you “saved” me, but I don’t play that stupidly childish game. If you really wanna help then keep sending ideas, don’t get pissy because they haven’t worked. If I was shooting down your idea, I’d say it was stupid or not worth trying; what I’ve been saying is that I tried them & they haven’t worked, so get over it.

There’s a fine line, yet a big difference between empathizing with people and feeling pity for them. We should empathize, not pity. And sometimes when someone vents, telling them “It’s ok, keep your chin up!” makes it better, but sometimes it makes it worse because what they really need to hear is “Yes! It does suck and I feel the same as you!” and trying to tell them it’s not so bad just comes off as telling them they’re full of crap for feeling the way they feel, no matter what your intention really is.

I’m sick of being broke, sick of being hungry, sick of cheap crap, sick of having to turn down invites to parties/gatherings because I can’t afford them, sick of people feeling pity for me & sick of living off hand-outs >_< Yes, I know it’s not forever. Doesn’t make right now any less depressing/frustrating, but venting helps.

I’m amazed how many people, as good intentioned as they are, say “just get a job” or “just get a different job” as if it was as simple as getting a different box of cereal off the shelf at the grocery store… >_<

Judging the crimes: Obama and US announce Bin Laden killed

A lot of people have been buzzing about tne news last night that Osama Bin Laden is confirmed dead. There are so many thoughts and opinions on this event, it’s insane.

There are people that are reveling in Bin Laden’s death, partying it up; I feel this is wrong. We’re celebrating the death of one man; what about all the thousands that have dies because of him? Was Bin Laden so awesome that he deserves all these parties? Aren’t you, in essence, giving him a wake? Frankly, I have better things to do. Continue reading